28 weeks: my third and final trimester – the last time I will reach this milestone, the last time that I will be a pregnant woman.
Perusing a few sites for the information regarding my baby boy’s development, his size has been likened to a cucumber or a cabbage – all I know is that I need my two hands to follow and feel all of his movements; his strength is increasing by the day and I really can feel his body filling out and putting on all of that lovely, necessary fat. It’s a time of much joy; most mornings are now spent with my partner, Clayton, and two daughters, Aila and Indigo, all on the bed with me, alternating between watching baby’s movements from the outside with amazement and giggles, and enjoying feeling the sensations with their hands; talking to their baby brother, telling him how cheeky he is, and how much they love him.
Aila, 6, our eldest daughter, has taken to asking in various sneaky ways on a daily basis what we feel his name is – sorry, sweetheart, this one’s in the vault – after excitedly telling Daddy what his birthday present was last year when you forgot it was a secret, I just don’t think you’d be able to keep it in if we told you!
This stage of the pregnancy has also coincided with Christmas. Christmas, to me, means family, and my goodness am I further realising how much they mean to me, what creating my own family has meant to me and how much it has changed me, and how truly blessed and grateful I am.
I’ve found that this week has come with mixed emotions – immense happiness that I’ve made it through another very challenging phase of nausea and exhaustion, that I feel so good and am not experiencing any major back issues or any real discomfort, and that realisation that I will be holding my baby boy in a matter of months – breathing him in and delighting at all the little details that make him him – whether he does indeed look like he does in my dreams, or completely different. Conversely, there are the moments where I find myself affirming out loud to others that after the birth of this beautiful boy, I feel, as does Clayton, that our family will be complete – those moments have come with varying feelings – that I’m okay with that one day, and dealing with some feelings that I can quite label the next. I think this is going to have to be a bit of a process to work through; maybe some sadness, maybe some grieving, whatever comes up, I’ll work through it, and I know that deciding not to have any more children is what feels right to us; just as the timing of our baby boy coming to us when he has has felt so right.
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Acknowledging all of those emotions has made me that much more aware of all of baby’s movements and communications with me. He makes me stop and really be present, truly feeling him, his energies – however subtle or strong. He now gets hiccups a lot, and I stop and notice that sensation every time – day or night. They feel to me like a slower heartbeat; they can tickle a bit, or they can make me feel a bit agitated to be honest. Baby is positioned right up close to my belly as my placenta is more in a posterior position, so where I couldn’t feel hiccups from the outside with my hands on my skin with either of my girls, I can this time, and it’s another feeling to be grateful for, and take me deeper into my connection with my baby.
Healthy recipe for chocolate cravings
I’m a firm believer in everything in moderation. I love chocolate, and I have quite a sweet tooth, but my body does not respond well when I have too much sugar. Over the years, I’ve modified my palate to appreciate the natural sweetness of fruits, and combining that with chocolate, ingredients such as raw organic cacao powder and dates are an absolute winner! I don’t have the same tolerance or enjoyment from sugar since slowly making this change in my life.
This recipe is ridiculously quick and easy, and truly satisfying! As well as tasting decadent, it gives you a great source of minerals, omega 3s, fibre, and good fats. My only modifications for this recipe are that I choose to add a touch organic vanilla extract to taste, and some dried cranberries, and my tip for you is to liquefy the coconut oil if it’s not already. I also find the flavour and texture are improved by refrigerating them first. Enjoy!
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Healthy cacao, coconut and date balls
- Place dates in a medium bowl and cover with water. Stand for 1 hour. Drain and discard seeds.Process dates, almond meal, shredded coconut, coconut oil, cacao powder and chia seeds until mixture comes together. Transfer to a bowl and stand for 20 minutes for chia seeds to soften.
Place remaining coconut in a shallow dish.
Roll level tablespoons of mixture into balls. Roll in coconut to coat.
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