A few short weeks ago, I took a pregnancy test, but I knew with all my heart and soul what the outcome would be! Baby had already been whispering to me days before, and visiting me in my dreams, and even told me the day they would be born…but I’ll keep that to myself! This little one has been around me for quite some time, and now certainly feels like the right time. We will be, most likely, welcoming our third baby in March 2017. This is what I’m sticking with this time around – I’m not giving people my estimated due date, just my due month. Having felt the anxiety that comes with people knowing about the supposed magic date twice before, this time, I’m relieving myself of that pressure. I think that this will be my last pregnancy, so I’m doing the things I wished I’d done before, and I’m going to enjoy this pregnancy – my healing pregnancy.
The first pregnancy was stressful as I had prolonged ‘morning’ sickness, and I was fearful of birth, and I sure wasn’t ready for the fact that my baby wouldn’t be born when the calendar had dictated, and the push from the hospital to induce. I was even less prepared for the “have you had the baby yet?” messages which kept coming through on my phone.
The second pregnancy, yet again prolonged ‘morning’ sickness, and although I had no fear of birth, there was an uneasiness and sadness which came with the lack of support from some through choosing a homebirth. The true support came from those who mattered, and I believed with every fibre of my being that a homebirth with our independent midwife was the safest and best choice for baby and I, but I hadn’t experienced one before, so the fear of the unknown crept in from time to time; compounded by the looks or opinions of others in relation to my birthing choice.
What do I know now? You can not please everybody. You need to let go of the want to please everybody and focus only on what feels right to you and your baby. Don’t apologise for it. Your pregnancy. Your body. Your baby. Your right. It’s tough to know that there may be certain people in our lives that we just can’t share what we want to with them, that there can’t be open-minded discussion without judgment, but ultimately, we need to remember that their opinions don’t matter.
At this stage, I choose another homebirth. As with my second pregnancy, I can already visualise the birth, where the birthing pool will be, and I very much look forward to actually catching my baby this time! I have been preparing for this pregnancy for quite some time, and I feel so truly blessed to be feeling the magic of the process again; to be bringing another beautiful baby into the world and into our family. I’m so excited!
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I am going to be writing weekly installments which document my journey, and I invite you to follow me and share your thoughts if you are on your own journey, too. Some days are just a little tougher than others, so it helps to be able to share what we’re feeling and support each other. We could also share some tips on what is helping us, and this is what I’d like to start with:
I am already feeling it quite strongly, and I experience it for most of the day, just as I did my previous pregnancies, but I am finding I am able to cope better this time, as I’m looking at the whole picture. What can I do for myself physically? What I can do for myself emotionally?
- I am harnessing the power of my breath and breathing slowly and deeply into my belly. When a strong wave of nausea hits, I always notice that I am breathing shallowly and rapidly.
- My partner brings me a morning snack in bed before he leaves for work. At the moment, a vegemite sandwich is doing the trick (yes, I’m Australian)! This is far from the way I would normally start my day, but this is helping so I’m going with it! I will eat that slowly whilst still in bed, and give the blood sugar a chance to come back up before I get up and try to start the day. Once I’m up, I grate some fresh ginger and add some boiling water and let that steep for a few minutes, and will sip it throughout the morning.
- During the day, I graze. Crackers, cheese, nuts, fruit, veggie sticks like celery, and a bit of dark chocolate here and there! I’ll have an egg for lunch when I feel like it, or some other protein. I love cold rice paper rolls, but couldn’t be bothered going to the effort of making them the other day, so steamed, then rinsed, the rice vermicelli in cold water, julienned some carrot and then wrapped the noodles and carrot in a lettuce leaf – I found that very soothing at a time when I felt the nausea was due to hunger, but couldn’t stomach much.
- I eat a light dinner with my kids just after the school pick up – around 4:00pm. I was feeling far too uncomfortable to go to bed after eating at the usual time of 6:30pm. I will have some light snacks until I go to bed.
- When I inevitably wake up during the night to go to the toilet, I have a few sips of water, and a handful of crackers.
- When a wave of nausea hits, I remind myself why – I’m not sick, I’m pregnant. My attention shifts from feeling something I don’t want to feel, to my baby. I take those deep breaths, and connect with my baby.
- I talk with my baby, and ask to integrate our energies more gently. I recognise that growing another human being with energetics which are different to mine may contribute to the nausea, too.
- After checking in with baby, I feel the gratitude. Gratitude for being pregnant, gratitude that this soul chose us as their family, gratitude that I and baby are happy and healthy.
So, these are things that are working for me, what’s working for you? How are you feeling? How many weeks are you into your journey?
Thank you for joining me on my journey – I look forward to hearing about yours and connecting with you!
From the Womb to the World
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